The Power of Parting

This myth-shattering, inspiring book combines research and memoir to explore the growing phenomenon of cutting ties from toxic relatives – showing it not as a tragedy, but as an empowering and effective solution.

After decades of enduring his mother’s physical and psychological torment and years of trying in vain to set boundaries, Eamon Dolan took a radical step: he cut his mother out of his life. Parting with his abuser gave him immediate relief and set him on a path toward freedom, confidence and joy like none he had ever felt before.

In The Power of Parting, Dolan has written the book he wishes he’d had when he was struggling to free himself from his mother’s abuse. As high-profile cases like the Beckham family tensions bring these difficult conversations into the mainstream, Dolan reveals the hidden statistics: One in five UK families will be affected by estrangement, and at least 27 per cent of Americans are estranged from a parent, sibling or other family member. Estrangement should be understood and embraced, not shrouded in shame.

Drawing his experience, expert guidance and the stories of other survivors, Dolan first explains why abuse harms us in childhood and beyond, and why limiting or eliminating contact might be our best possible choice. He then takes us through the steps of a positive estrangement: how to take time for yourself; how to set rules for your abuser and – if they don’t respect your limits – how to end a toxic relationship. He also offers counsel on how to ease the guilt and grief that often accompany parting.

With a blend of clarity and empathy, Dolan encourages others to do what he ultimately did for himself: determine whether the people in your life treat you with the care and concern you deserve – and part ways with them if they don’t.